Anxiety

Anxiety Anxiety is normal during times such as these but as someone who often experiences mild anxiety and who works with clients who bring anxiety as a reason for accessing therapy to sessions in the first place its important to explore how disruptive and debilitating anxiety can become. It’s important to try to relax and […]

The Final Count Down. Fego boys and the Kings.

The final countdown The music came to an abrupt end For a moment Kunle couldn’t believe what was actually happening. He had seen his parents leave earlier that morning to catch their flight to the airport. He couldn’t understand why they were standing there before him, just as the party was heating up. He wasn’t […]

I only ♥️you because… Create an internal love for yourself.

I only ❤️ you because …. (The Self-Concept)Create an internal ♥️ for yourself. The Self Concept is often altered because love is sometimes conditional. In some families children are only loved when they outperform their peers at school. They are loved when they do well academically and they are loved when they follow a chosen […]

Little Miss Perfect

Truth be said it must be so painful playing the perfect game but there were several little miss perfect’s at Fego but the one I remember ever so clearly was named Tinuke Thompson. Perfect name, perfect person. TT she was called by her ever ready followers. “Hey” TT they would say, loving your house-wear, where did you get […]

Shagamu, Part 1

Ibrahim and Mama Lynda Shagamu 4

Morning came far too soon at Odogbolu, Ibrahim propped himself up in  bed. He thought about Mama Lynda and the night they had spent together in the den. He placed his arms behind his head as he lay awake staring up at the ceiling looking into nothingness. He wondered when he would be able to […]

I am every woman, happy international women’s day. ❤️

Today across the globe women are celebrated and revered. They are hailed for their strength, for their fragility, vulnerability, their uniqueness and their difference. When I was growing up in my early twenties I loved to hang out with the guys I had several close male friends but fast forward years later I discovered the […]

“Call me Sapphire”.

Reciting student names from the register for the first time after the long, lazy summer holidays has always been a chore. I can’t understand why I have four students with the same name in my class. This is definitely going to be a task and a half. Every year becomes more and more daunting to remember […]

Dreams

I first dreamt about being a therapist whilst watching Nip and Tuck an American TV programme. There was a scene I watched between one of the main characters sitting with his therapist that caught my attention. The programme was based in LA so I kept dreaming about having a practice in the sun, near the […]

Shagamu 3, the final journey back to Odogbolu.

Ibrahim smiled sweetly at Mama Lynda, he felt attached and attracted to her as he lay in her strong muscled, large, arms. He had been visiting the den ever since his mother died. He felt a calm and a comfort there that he didn’t feel while at Odogbolu or when he was back home with […]